Friday, December 14, 2012

Conflict Management, The Prophetic Way Part 3



In the previous two posts on conflict management, I presented the five modes of approaching conflict, and the six sources of conflict. In this post, I'll be discussing the two objects of conflict: positions and concerns. By distinguishing between the two, and shifting the object of conflict from positions to concerns, management of conflict and negotiation can become more likely.  

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Conflict Management The Prophetic Way Part 2



In part one of the conflict management post series, I discussed the different modes of managing conflict. In this post (part 2 of the series), I’ll be discussing the sources of conflict, and how to shift the source of conflict from one that is futile to meddle in, to one that can be influenced.

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Conflict Management, the Prophetic Way Part 1


Imagine an orange on the kitchen table, that you believe to be yours, and have a desire to eat. Before making your way towards the orange, however, your sister lays her hand on it. Upset, you stop her in her tracks and shout, “Hey, I put that orange there. It’s mine.”

“No, It’s my orange. I bought it,” she retorts. At this point, there is a conflict. Who gets the orange?

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Impression of Ramadan Among non-Muslims



I would like to extend a belated eid mubarak to you. I pray that our efforts during ramadan were accepted. A sign that one’s efforts during Ramadan have been accepted is that those efforts continue outside of Ramadan.

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I want to relate two conversations I’ve had with non-Muslim colleagues at work during previous Ramadans. Perhaps you may have had similar conversations:

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Passing of Stephen Covey


Stephen Covey passed away on July 16, 2012. At the age of 80, he died as a result of a bicycle accident.  On his website, you can read more about his passing and the great legacy he left behind.

Friday, July 6, 2012

Strengths



It is strange how society often pushes us to do things that aren’t aligned with our talents, skills, aptitudes, and interests. For example, parents may encourage their child to become a physician, even though he/she is talented in arts. The workplace may encourage their employers to be a manager if they want to earn more, even though they are gifted in technical work. People may be forced to be more social, when they are introverted by nature.

Friday, June 8, 2012

The Art of Naming Children



AlhamduliLlah, on May 25, 2012, Allah The Most Generous blessed my wife and I with our first daughter. I ask for your prayers that she grow as a God conscious, healthy, intelligent, SPECIAL Muslimah, and that she be a source of joy, support, and reward for her parents and all those around her.

We named her Barakah.

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Quality of Questions




The quality of the questions we ask ourselves affects the quality of our life. They can lead us on the path to failure, or they can guide us towards success.   Let me explain.

Saturday, April 14, 2012

The Path to Piety


I like that name – “Path to Piety”. Short, catchy, and clear in meaning. Kudos to the person who came up with it.

Path to Piety is an annual three-day Islamic program hosted by Masjid dar us Salaam, a masjid located in the most densely Muslim populated neighbourhood in Canada, Thorncliffe (Toronto).  The entire Muslim Thorncliffe community, young and old, men and women, were brought to life during this event, enjoying the delicious burgers being grilled in the masjid parking lot, purchasing books, meeting old friends, trying out the new peach-mango smoothie at the nearby Tim Hortons, and most importantly, attending the program lectures. Many of the lectures filled the masjid to beyond capacity, to the point where one brother commented that the masjid reminded him of gatherings at Dar ul Mustafa in Tarim, Yemen.

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Insights on Management




Despite my efforts to move up the corporate ladder and become a manager, I hadn’t been making much progress. I reasoned that perhaps my work ethic was not management material. But a management course I recently took helped me realize that work ethic was not the impediment to my advancement. The problem lay in my understanding of the career transition to management.

Friday, March 2, 2012

Timeless Advice on Time Management




“By Time! Surely man is in a state of loss, except those who believe, perform righteous deeds, exhort one another to the truth, and exhort one another to patience.” [103:1-3]

"There are two blessings which many people lose: (They are) health and free time for doing good." (Bukhari)

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With the increasing complexities of life and the finite hours in a day, the ability to manage time as a means to being productive has become critically important. Hence the buzz term, ‘time management’.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

You Can’t Say This Word



Recently I asked a brother if he would be interested in joining me for congregational prayers at the local masjid, as I knew that he prayed regularly. The response he gave me was, “I can’t, because I am too busy”.

Like the majority of people, the brother used the word “can’t” (ok, it’s really two words, but whatever) inaccurately in his response. It’s not that he "can’t" go to the masjid, because he does have the ability to go. The reality is that he is choosing not to go to the masjid based on his decision making process over competing priorities.

Friday, January 27, 2012

The Power of Words



It is no secret that our internal state affects the choice of words we use in communicating. As someone said, the tongue is the interpreter of the heart. Our anger, arrogance, happiness, excitement, hatred etc. are expressed in our choice of words.

What may not be so obvious is that the reverse causation is also true: the choice of words we use affects our internal state. For example, if someone asks you, “How are you doing?”, you will feel differently if you say, “fine”, than if you say, “absolutely fantastic” or “best day of my life”. Simply choosing words that express how you would like to feel rather than how you feel in the moment will help bring you to your desired feeling.

Friday, January 6, 2012

The Foundation of Community: Reflections on the Theme of the 2011 Reviving the Islamic Spirit Convention



This year’s Reviving the Islamic Spirit convention, which is held annually in Toronto, was dedicated to the theme, ‘Control, Chaos, or Community:  Three Ways, One World, Our Choice.’ Although the theme is quite complex and can be approached from an assortment of perspectives – as was demonstrated by the different presentations at the convention, there is one element underlying the three scenarios of control, chaos, and community that deserves particular attention.