Thursday, July 28, 2011

Complaining again

The Prophet (peace and blessing be upon Him) said, “How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for his affairs are all good, and this applies to no one except the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.” (Muslim)

Complaints can be categorized into two types – complaints about things that we have control over, and complaints about things that we don’t have control over. In my previous post on responsibility, I was referring to the first type of complaint as a sign of being irresponsible. Usually such people subconsciously believe themselves to be incompetent or incapable, and so, at a conscious level, they portray themselves as competent or capable through bringing down someone else by complaining. As the saying goes, “Small people try to make themselves bigger by making other people feel smaller.” On the other hand, great people make themselves bigger by elevating others. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon Him) was so great that he cultivated a set of desert nomads into becoming the champions and leaders of civilization.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Own your Life

The very first step in overcoming any issue or pursuing any goal - whether it is related to religion, health, relationships, money, addictions, or whatever - is to recognize that the desirable outcome will only be attained through taking ownership and responsibility of one’s life. This point may not sound so revolutionary at first, but it is so foundational to personal development that most self help books will start off with a chapter centred on this theme. At a personal level, knowing that I am responsible for who I have become – and who I can become - was an incredible opening in my life.